10th Wedding Anniversary : Not such typycal couple..

Right today, 10 years ago I made a huge milestone.

Let me share a lil bit how i ended up marry someone I've been with for a decade.

My bestfriend which also his, setted us up by took his cell phone and text me pretend as him. Cheesy right? Latter on we get along as I found him as a perfect balance creature -funny and concerned to politics and history; good at sport as well as music-

As a befriended with many boys since i was a kid, most likely i can guess boys mind. And i dont like a boys that i can win over easily in an argue. Well i got that boomerang. He was difficult to guessed, not really well in verbalizing feeling (his emotion were angry, or hungry only). And extremely difficult to turned down in an argue.

We're a kind of couple that loves to be around our friends, not merely clinging to each other. When I saw a pretty or sexy girl i tell him. Well its eyes vitamin right. Its not like he will easily approach them.

We both has the same taste in music, but different ways in thinking and act. I was thoughtful, unassertive, repress and sensitive. He was straightforward, practical, and emotional. After we married and has a kid sooner than we plan, these differences become more difficult to overcome.

Should I tell you how hard it was? If yes i had to write a book then. Well just imagine, two very young people raise a family while continue ourcollege years. We also became a partimer in an HR consultant. Hufft it was tough back then.

Somehow, i know its cliche, love make us willing to pay huge effort, move towards another. In marriage i dont see wife should change to adjust with the husband or the other way around. We both have to change to find a middle line of the difference. Now that am more assertive, and we can manage his emotions better we pretty much alike.

What I see from our marriage is he's  not trapped in the stereotype of how a wife should be. Am not good at cooking, he clean the house better than me. Am a carreer women who work passionately.
And so thankful that he doesnt mind with it. Am now spend the weekday 140km away from him, and we meet only on weekend. Its been almost 4 years. I know every man wants to see her wife to at home after work, but he really respect my decision. And i couldn't work properly if hes not giving me secure feeling that i can share the responsibility of raising our son with him.

Well of course i should closely look at them both. Sometimes they're just too laid back. Boys will be boys anyway.

Ten years we've grow up together. Am very thankful, i want him to know that ..uhmm... i love him, in high and low, good time and bad time, with his strength and shortcomings. Thanks.. Lets have another years shall we?

Bonus : my husband not only change in term of maturity, but he aslo has evolution in his appearance (if not called metamorphosis) as the pic comparison below. i hope he wont sue me for published this :p

Cheers,

Kaka