10th Wedding Anniversary : Not such typycal couple..

Right today, 10 years ago I made a huge milestone.

Let me share a lil bit how i ended up marry someone I've been with for a decade.

My bestfriend which also his, setted us up by took his cell phone and text me pretend as him. Cheesy right? Latter on we get along as I found him as a perfect balance creature -funny and concerned to politics and history; good at sport as well as music-

As a befriended with many boys since i was a kid, most likely i can guess boys mind. And i dont like a boys that i can win over easily in an argue. Well i got that boomerang. He was difficult to guessed, not really well in verbalizing feeling (his emotion were angry, or hungry only). And extremely difficult to turned down in an argue.

We're a kind of couple that loves to be around our friends, not merely clinging to each other. When I saw a pretty or sexy girl i tell him. Well its eyes vitamin right. Its not like he will easily approach them.

We both has the same taste in music, but different ways in thinking and act. I was thoughtful, unassertive, repress and sensitive. He was straightforward, practical, and emotional. After we married and has a kid sooner than we plan, these differences become more difficult to overcome.

Should I tell you how hard it was? If yes i had to write a book then. Well just imagine, two very young people raise a family while continue ourcollege years. We also became a partimer in an HR consultant. Hufft it was tough back then.

Somehow, i know its cliche, love make us willing to pay huge effort, move towards another. In marriage i dont see wife should change to adjust with the husband or the other way around. We both have to change to find a middle line of the difference. Now that am more assertive, and we can manage his emotions better we pretty much alike.

What I see from our marriage is he's  not trapped in the stereotype of how a wife should be. Am not good at cooking, he clean the house better than me. Am a carreer women who work passionately.
And so thankful that he doesnt mind with it. Am now spend the weekday 140km away from him, and we meet only on weekend. Its been almost 4 years. I know every man wants to see her wife to at home after work, but he really respect my decision. And i couldn't work properly if hes not giving me secure feeling that i can share the responsibility of raising our son with him.

Well of course i should closely look at them both. Sometimes they're just too laid back. Boys will be boys anyway.

Ten years we've grow up together. Am very thankful, i want him to know that ..uhmm... i love him, in high and low, good time and bad time, with his strength and shortcomings. Thanks.. Lets have another years shall we?

Bonus : my husband not only change in term of maturity, but he aslo has evolution in his appearance (if not called metamorphosis) as the pic comparison below. i hope he wont sue me for published this :p

Cheers,

Kaka

Don't expect people put their feet in your shoes, it might not fit em..!!

 Okay, let me start with this one sentence, i forgot when and who stated it :

Social media reducing the time to reflect on what we think, yet encourage impulsiveness.

I posted something while ago in my path ac, not in a positive emotion though.
I said i really really hate when people see me as someone who had no personal life because I spent many time in office.
When they said overtime is just my hobby, and i work late because i want to use the office internet a lil more, i couldn't help but hurt.

Am not complaining that i have more job a lot more on my shoulder. I don't mind to run faster. However don't judge me that low. Am a runner not an opportunistic loner.

I have many interest, many hobby. Song to cover, make up to be reviewed, family to taken care. And office internet become slower at night time anyway (more people work in different time zone).

I was pissed off. Then i imagined my self talk with my best friend,someone i grew up with. She probably awake this time, feed her baby, but dont wanna bother her, she needs to rest.

I think about how she would react. How my emotional state would be when i talk to her. Then i calmed down. We used to face a greater problem than this. Used to be the talk of the neighborhood but we don't care. why? Simply because we're happy. We know what we do the best, people may judge wrongly but nothing can forbid them to  do so.
If you're down with what people say, it means a bit of your heart admit that it's true, or, worry that is true. When you worry you don't trust yourself fully. If you worty you'll not empowered yourself at the most you can. Just because what people say, you have a chance to failed. Hell no...

So after i got enlighten i feel ashamed on what i posted before. I want to delete the post, but then i think again.

"Social media, once you post something, most likely it will stay there. Then hey I'll keep my mistakes so i can learn from it anytime i forget"

Another thought come to my mind is..

"People change over time, but how strong the root will determine how much we change. Growing, expanding, or blown by the wind"

I almost change into someone that get hurt easily. Thought of my friend and what we've been through keep my foot on the ground.

"In any difficulty, would be great if we run to something/someone we root for. Your value, religion, family, or friends you grow up with. How precious they are, that even without their physical presence you'll feel it gives you power"

"when you questioning yourself you weakening yourself."

난 자신 있어. 아무것도 할 수있어. 난 사람들이 무슨 말해 아니야.

And the most important, dont expect people to understand, dont ask for emphaty. Not all people willing and able to see your full sides, hear your complete story, to make a proper judgement of yourself.  Its so human, me myself not always able to take other perspective, 'put my feet on other's shoes'
Well, don't expect others will put their feet in ours too. It might not fit them ��